Hello readers! Welcome and welcome back to my regulars!
I originally had another topic for this post, yet with Wednesday being a very monumental day for me I really wanted to check in and express my feelings since completing the 12-week fitness training program.
First of all, I am so incredibly proud of myself. Acknowledging my own success has been something I did not always feel comfortable doing. I have constantly battled with the idea that being perfect, doing everything perfectly, having a facade of having it all together and knowing it all was the only way to be perceived as successful. If I didn’t know it, I didn’t speak up to be perceived as stupid. I kept quiet and I silenced my voice. I wanted the world to think I knew the answer and keep my perfect profile. Now getting close to my one-year anniversary since I started really peeling back and revealing the true layers of who I am and stepping into the person I truly am (almost one year into a journey of transformation), I feel so proud of my accomplishments not only within the last 12 weeks or the last year but my entire life. I sit back and I really express my love and gratitude for what has been afforded to me thus far in my lifetime. I accept the mess-ups, I accept the negatives, I accept the positives, I accept it all. I accept that I am not perfect and I accept that no one else is either.
Let me ask you this: How often do you congratulate and celebrate yourself in your day to day or week to week life? How easy is it to just think about the “negative” things that has happened and miss out on everything that is “positive”? I’m sure you may have had someone cut you off in traffic, be pissed about it all day, failing to recognize that you have a car to drive to work in when kids have to walk barefoot to school in some countries. How easy is it for us to walk with a false facade of confidence or assurance when really we don’t even believe in ourselves or won’t even allow ourselves to mess up? Some people may cover up their truths with material things, social media photos, food, isolation, etc. I found it difficult for a while to really allow others to see me as I was–flaws and all. And now my faults and flaws excite me. My fears excite me. They both are my driving force.
I plan to have an entire post on my 12-week fitness journey, but I wanted to let you guys know that it’s okay to walk into a gym and not know how to work a piece of equipment. It’s okay to have one of the most muscular men (or women) in the gym stop you in the middle of a set and offer their suggestions to correct your form (yes, this happened–twice lol). It’s okay if you can only lift 5 lbs at a time when the person standing next to you is lifting 50. It’s okay to set up a bench in the middle of the floor and have everyone look at what you’re doing. All of it is okay! You’re not perfect!
But your lack of perfection should not be your motivation. The desire to accomplish a goal, the want to stay committed, the drive to surpass your milestones should be your motivation. I was so driven by making progress in gaining strength, building muscle, creating a consistent active lifestyle, and completing 84 days of hard work on my body that I had no desire for perfection. I coached myself and I know that through my coaching I recognized the potential and the power I had to get what I wanted at the end of the 12 weeks. And none of it had to do with perfection. It was the gym, the plan, and me. I messed up, I looked foolish maybe to some, I looked lost maybe to a lot others, but I did it. Not only did I do it, but I improved and corrected what I had to–without judgement of myself. I became more focused and determined to reach my goal. I didn’t stop and sabotage myself when it got hard. I didn’t worry about those around that may have judged. I stayed the course and got amazing results–more than I would have imagined.
Progression is a major factor that I am sure to touch base on several times as I continue this blog. It is so important to recognize that the goal of “perfection” will never be achieved. Each person has their own idea on what perfect should be–and in those perfect ideas there are no flaws. In real life, there are. We are humans, uniquely and individually our own. We are perfect in our own way–not in the way of others.
If you feel as if you are looking for a way to really get past what has been stopping you, send me an email at email@example.com! My love for health coaching is not embedded in the results of what you can see physically, but mentally as well. My way of giving back in doing what I love is you recognizing your OWN perfection, just as you are. Sometimes our idea of perfect gets cloudy and we lose ourselves. This then spirals down to losing our self love, self worth, self confidence, self satisfaction, and more. I had to get off the cycle of striving for someone else’s idea of perfection and in doing this allowing myself to accept the challenges, brace for the changes, and celebrate the wins.
Surprise…you’re not perfect.
Leave a comment below if you have been in this place or may still be in this place. I want to hear some open, honest feedback on what you think may be stopping you? Or if you’ve successfully found a way to get off the cycle of beating yourself up–how did you do it? Everyone has a voice and we would love to hear about your experiences!
Be Healthy All,