You Must Work For You

Often times people sign up for weight loss programs or gyms or trainers and they expect all of those external factors to magically help them change who they are. And sure, they work. But the truth is that no matter how many resources you have, or trainers you pay, or gyms you sign up for NO ONE is going to do the work except YOU. And that’s the way it is. No one is going to hold your hand and feed you the proper meals at night. No one is lifting the weight or walking on the treadmill for you. I know I’m not. And I won’t pretend to act like that’s my job. In reality it’s yours. You signed up to work for you! My purpose is to encourage you to keep going!

The secret is simple guys and all the information is there. This opportunity comes to you everyday—yet your excuses continue to get in the way. I’m not saying you HAVE to do this. It is your choice. But if you know that a change must occur in how you view your health, whether it be physically or mentally, it’s time to start working. It’s time to start working for you. Especially when it comes to this. I know we live in a world where flat abs and fat asses are the goal, but do you want that for YOUR benefit or do you want it for other people? I mean really ask yourself.

I’m at an age and era where the way you look has a lot more to do with how other people see you on social media. The pictures you take have to be perfect. I’ve been guilty of this myself. Quick example, I have dark indented circles under my eyes and I literally just realized that I’ve had them since I was a baby. I was looking at old photos while I was home and just noticed this! I laugh because those indents have always bothered me and I have been self conscious about them for so long! They even prevented me from wearing contacts for a long time because I knew they were there. Now I can look at those circles a little differently—not sure why or how but I know I feel differently about them. And it may be because I now accept them because they are mine. And they are beautiful. And they are fine.

But now I ask the question: How do you see yourself when you don’t have the perfect picture? Do you love yourself? Do you love the way you look? Do you love the way you feel? Are you happy? Can you stand in the mirror naked and love ALL of your body without the approval of others?

I touch on this topic a lot but being healthy also includes having a healthy and strong mind. You are able to do this for yourself and love yourself through this process. I believe that a healthy world is a loving one because when people are healthy they feel good. They have more energy. They have a better chance of being happy and confident in themselves. But there is a dark side to this. Sometimes we obsess over what the “perfect body” should be and go to extremes to try and fit that mold. That’s the side of health I want you to shift away from. I want you to move from I can’t or Ishouldn’t have thisto I choose, I accept and I openly will have this.

When I started my initial exercising and strength training my mind gradually shifted. Over the course of almost 2 years now, I have become so much more mentally stronger when I workout and when I eat that how I workout and how I eat play much less of a role in my overall healthy life. It’s now focused on what I think and tell myself! I am still in the process of self love and I believe it is a continuous journey. Time changes and so do we. However, I am unafraid of judgement. I am unafraid of being laughed at or made fun of and it is such a powerful place to stand.

One of my goals in life is to allow others to feel that no validation or explanation is needed for who you are! So when someone asks you, “why are you doing this” or “who are you trying to look good for” the best and most confident answer will be “For ME”.


Focus on working on your own development and on what you teach. If you do this, you will save yourself and those who hear you. – 1 Timothy 416


Leave a comment below if you have any questions or thoughts you would like to share. I would love to hear from you. 💜

Much love,

Tip, Coach T

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