Personal Growth

How Can You Be Kinder To Yourself?

Well, here we are nearing the end of another year. Twenty-freaking-eighteen. I couldn’t officially chuck the deuces to this year without giving a few final words to what the past (almost) 52 weeks have taught me, so here goes…

First lesson: There is nothing that will come to me that I am unable to handle.

Second lesson: It is completely okay NOT to have everything right 100% of the time.

Third lesson: Be kinder to yourself.

These three lessons for 2018 “taught” me, or better yet reminded me, that you can prepare yourself for the destination, but you have no idea what your journey is going to look like. For the past few months I have been in a space where I was feeling stagnant, tired, and slightly disengaged. I wasn’t writing.ย  I felt as if I couldn’t put into words what I was feeling. I wasn’t posting much. I was working out but I wasn’t as engaging as I had been before. I dealt with personal issues that ranged from family to relationships to work. And I never thought December would come. Basically, ya girl is tired. I recognized that my characteristic of being hard on myself was in full force.

But I did get a slight spark back in December. Work was in its normal madhouse form, however, I set precedence to my sanity. That meant ensuring that I exercised, ate well and slept appropriately.

Being kind TO me meant making sure that I was doing what I wanted to do FOR me.

If you know me, and even if you don’t, here’s something to know about me; I live by quotes. So when I read, “How can you be kinder to yourself right now“, it allowed me to reflect on all of the ways this past year I was not allowing myself the opportunity to be kind to me. I kept beating myself up for not having everything done that I wanted and not executing what I anticipated for 2018. But this quote reminded me that I have to stop being so hard on myself. I must express kindness to myself. That means celebrating all that I have accomplished this year, including the events that were not anticipated. Celebrating both the ups and the downs. I get to find the moments of kindness in my 2018 story and I encourage you to do the same.

This post just serves as an end of the year reminder to be kind to yourself. In the moments that you start beating yourself up and can only pick out the worse…

STOP.

BREATHE.

ASK.

Ask, how can you be kind to yourself? Take the opportunity to acknowledge what is in front of you and move past what is behind you. In these moments, be soft, be grateful, and be kind.

Congratulations on making it to the end of 2018.

Xo, T.

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